IDP Resource: Listening & Learning with "I" Statements

Episode 8. Listening

In this episode, Natasha, Rachel, and Stephen talk about their experiences learning to listen, connecting to others through listening, and asking themselves questions about who they listen to and why.

Episode transcript

Discussion Questions

  • What is your experience with learning to listen? What makes it easy for you to actively listen to others and what makes it challenging?
  • Thinking about a context in which you’ve spent a lot of time (e.g., a classroom, a workplace, your family unit), how would you describe the way that listening shows up there? Is listening prioritized? Do people reciprocate listening to each other, or do some people dominate? Are the perspectives being shared typically similar to each other, or are there often disagreements?
  • When you actively listen to others, what kind of message does that convey to them? What kind of message do you receive when others actively listen to you?

Writing Prompt

How do you see the relationship between listening and social identities? You can think about this in your own life (e.g., who you listen you, who listens to you) or at a broader level (who is heard in society, who is expected to listen)?

Related Readings

Experiment with IDP’s latest offering: Listening & Learning with the “I” Statements podcast. This guide is an accompaniment to our podcast, “I” Statements, where people with different identities come together to share their own beliefs, experiences, and perspectives, demonstrating both the power and the possibility inherent in communicating across difference.

These episode guides are for people who would like to incorporate the podcast into their work with students and/or colleagues.

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Cite this IDP Resource:

  • APA: Intergroup Dialogue Project. (2020, September). IDP Resource: Listening & Learning with “I” Statements, Episode 8. Listening. Intergroup Dialogue Project – Dialogue Across Difference.
  • MLA: Intergroup Dialogue Project. “IDP Resource: Listening & Learning with “I” Statements, Episode 8. Listening.” Intergroup Dialogue Project – Dialogue Across Difference, Cornell University, September 2020,
  • Chicago: Intergroup Dialogue Project, “IDP Resource: Listening & Learning with “I” Statements, Episode 8. Listening,” Intergroup Dialogue Project – Dialogue Across Difference, Cornell University, September 2020,